The politics or "Sexual Assault/Harassment"

[Prometheus]

I'm going to stick with the "male/female" paradigm for the purpose of the essay. Deal with it.

There's an old (and completely accurate) saying that goes, "Everything is about sex... except sex. Sex is about power."

We often hear about how rape "isn't about sex, but power" and sexual harassment in the workplace is about "exerting power" and so on, but every [law-abiding] sexually active man in the world knows where the real power lies: between a woman's legs.

The promise of sex

The gift of sex

The threat of withholding sex

These are the three main tools a woman has at her disposal in order to manipulate the actions of men. Hell, I'm even going to drop "promise of sex" into the time-frame of before you were sexually active. And if any [sexually active] woman out there is thinking, "I've never done any such thing!" I'm just going to go ahead and call you a liar. I'm not calling you a bad person (per se) for doing those things but it would certainly be nice if you admitted it.

Is that "per se" bothering you?

Then maybe you should think on how you have used your "3 Powers" in the past and deal with your own cognitive dissonance.

"Sexual Harassment in the Workplace" has been a hot topic for decades. I'm sure that most (if not all) of us have had to watch some video or sit through a lecture on the subject mandated by our employer. We all learned what not to say, how to say the things we were allowed to say, not to stare, not to pat women's asses, not to hang calendars featuring scantily-clad women, and so on.

And way back when, it really was all about the sexual harassment of women in the workplace. This was a boon to women who could then use their "Promise" power to eliminate male rivals. But then, as more women became "bosses," more men started filing complaints and lawsuits on the basis of equality, women had to make adjustments. This is where they shifted focus to how they "felt" or "perceived the intention" of a man's words. It was always there to use, but complaints about the words used usually went nowhere when the offending words were, "Good morning" but now it was all about "his tone of voice when he said it" and "how it made me feel like a piece of meat" etc.

I'm not saying that every case was without merit, but it it does point out the hypocrisy of the issue: if women are supposed to be "strong and capable" why do they so often play for sympathy regarding their femininity?

"I'm a strong, capable woman! Now open that door for me, take my coat, and you damn well better put that seat down when you're done in the bathroom!" 

Most men do these things anyway as a matter of courtesy. But what is courtesy except us trying to move the game along from the "promise of sex" to the "gift of sex" or at least avoid the "withholding of sex" depending on relationship status?

Now, "harassment" has become "assault" in far too many cases. I'm not talking about the obvious issues of unwanted touching - but let's face it reaching out to stop a woman from stumbling backwards down some stairs could be more trouble than it's worth in the long run when the woman accuses her savior of assault because saving her from bodily injury necessitated bodily contact - but also of flirting. I understand that some drunk asshole being persistent in asking for a dance can be annoying, but does it really fall into the category of "sexual assault"?

"No means NO!"

Yeah, but he wasn't trying to stick his dick in your ass. He just wanted to dance and see if there was potential for being offered the "Promise." Call the bouncer, not the police and your lawyer. A guy walking past you on the street giving a catcall may be rude, but is it "sexual assault"? What should be more worrying is that his behavior has probably produced positive results in the past which is why he continues to do it in the present... or he's just an idiot who hasn't learned how to play the "courtesy" game.

Who knows? Maybe these guys have more to offer once you get past their boorishness.

In the end, the complete silence on the streets and in the workplace may seem like win for "feminism" (and workplace productivity) now that men have been "put in their place" but it stifles the development of socialization skills and might actually make men even more physically aggressive when any positive signal comes from a woman. They're probably going to want to move from "Promise" to "Gift" much more quickly due to being a bit "pent up."

Ladies, you're creating a world where "incels" are "right" and the number of "volcels" (voluntary celibates - I might have just made that up. I don't know) rises, thus limiting your own pool of potential partners. Your sexual politics will end in a net loss for you and for society as a whole as you strive for power based on revenge rather than understanding. What really makes it foolish is that you've had the power all along even if you didn't always get the praise.

I'd also make a comment to the guys here about not being assholes to women, but I suspect that the "women should clean the house and fuck me on command" types are a rarity here. Hell, I'm betting that there are a few guys here that are "positively incensed" by my little essay. At least that's what they'll say publicly in order to raise their own standing in the game.

/Monday Morning Rant