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Post by abbey1227 on Jan 16, 2023 12:36:11 GMT
Chip Chick
Dear Men: No, These Common Behaviors Do Not Mean Women Are Flirting With You
Story by Katharina Buczek • 29m ago
Have you ever been mindlessly going about your day– working at the office or shopping at a local store– and had your behavior misinterpreted as flirting? Maybe it’s because of our pandemic isolation or the fact that so many romantic advances are made online nowadays.
Whatever the reason, though, there are so many things women do while they simply exist that are commonly misinterpreted as a come-on.
But today, I am here to break some tough news: oftentimes, the most frequently misconstrued actions are actually not flirting attempts.
Instead, women online admitted that they are just being themselves. Plus, they revealed the top normal behaviors they do that lead men to think they are totally flirting when they are definitely not.
Smiling
Yes, that’s right– the natural human expression to showcase happiness, excitement, or even nervousness is, more times than not, interpreted as a total flirty move.
If you catch a woman smiling while walking down the street, scanning the aisles at CVS, or even during a conversation, though, she is likely not even thinking about you.
“If you smile at them and be polite, you’re flirting. If you don’t smile and keep a straight face, you’re ‘in a mood’ or ‘on your period.'” –Ilooklikeadeer
“[Smiling] is being human. Social constructs dictate we behave as such as humans, so we do. Doesn’t mean I want to give you my number.'” –729Baoht
Doing Their Job
If you have ever worked in sales, then you know that one of your main responsibilities is to interact with people. And about fifty percent of the time, those “people” happen to be men.
The next time you walk into a store and a female representative approaches you, though, keep that in mind. It is literally her job to talk to you, not fluff your ego while displaying samples.
“I am literally paid to make my store inviting and entice you to choose my business over another. And I don’t mind having a chat.”
\”But that doesn’t mean I am into you at all. I do genuinely care about what I’m talking to you about because I am generally into meeting new people, but my interest isn’t solely directed at you. Almost all my customers– male, female, young, old– get the same treatment.” –2k_0h_VI
Eye Contact
Looking into someone’s eyes when you speak to them is not a come-on; it’s common courtesy. If you went into a job interview, would you think the recruiter was flirting with you because they looked at you head-on? No!
Eye contact is a sign of engagement and respect. For some reason, though, women’s participation in the social cue is often seriously confused.
“I was taught to look someone straight in the eyes because it shows that you are confident.” –Distractioncitron
“Sometimes, I am just focused on the conversation.” –Cstarling4
Appearing Put-Together
Do you really think that women go through the effort of picking out a nice outfit, completing their skincare, doing their makeup, and blowing out their hair for the slim possibility that a guy will love their eyeliner or fawn over their curls?
The honest answer is no. Most women just complete these daily routines because they are relaxing, add discipline, and provide a personal sense of worth. Still, too many guys think “looking good” is a definite attempt to get potential suiters lining up.
“Looking pretty (dressing nice, doing my makeup, etc.) and being nice. I dress up for myself, not you. I am nice because that’s what decent human beings do.” –Middlescore–
Laughing And Cracking Jokes
Aren’t women allowed to have a sense of humor and laugh sometimes, too? Well, too often, the enjoyment is killed immediately afterward once women realize that their fun personality trait is being misinterpreted as some quirky come-on.
“An employee of mine and I would always light-heartedly roast each other and make funny (professional) jokes. Next thing you know, he started a rumor around the store that I hit on him. I’ve been with my spouse for ten years.” –Number5withcheese
“LAUGHING. Just laughing. It is very easy to make me laugh, so this becomes an issue for me quite often. I’m very blunt and open about whether or not I have feelings for someone, but clearly, I’m lying if I laugh at their jokes. If I like everyone that makes me laugh, I must be into all of my friends, my family, my pets, other cute animals, and funny posts on the internet, too.” –Queen_of_the_moths
Holding Open A Door
Okay, this final one might sound oddly specific. Okay, this final one might sound oddly specific. But it perhaps ties back to traditional ideas of chivalry and is seriously worth discussing.
Back in the day, men were always supposed to hold open doors for women. Nowadays, though, women are strong and independent and don’t really need that kind of treatment. Moreover, women are also willing to hold open the door for other people. Shocking, I know.
But, if a woman holds open a door for a guy, it is– for whatever reason– viewed as some really forward way to flirt. Rest assured, though; we are just being polite.
“I have a guy at my school who I used to open the door for all the time because he always said that his wrists hurt. Then, he tried to kiss me, and I freaked out. He said I was ‘coming onto him.'” –Toomanycults
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Post by Prometheus on Jan 16, 2023 13:24:28 GMT
I'm guessing the "men" in these scenarios are Millennials and Gen Z who were raised by Twitter and Instagram rather than by actual fathers and mothers.
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Post by merh on Jan 16, 2023 19:37:41 GMT
I'm guessing the "men" in these scenarios are Millennials and Gen Z who were raised by Twitter and Instagram rather than by actual fathers and mothers. When I was 19 working as a cashier so many guys flirted with me. Old farts even. Think you have a goddamned chance when I'm just being nice ringing up your sale which is my job? |
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Post by permutojoe on Jan 16, 2023 19:41:02 GMT
Abby has taken to womansplaining now?
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Post by Prometheus on Jan 16, 2023 23:54:28 GMT
I'm guessing the "men" in these scenarios are Millennials and Gen Z who were raised by Twitter and Instagram rather than by actual fathers and mothers. When I was 19 working as a cashier so many guys flirted with me. Old farts even. Think you have a goddamned chance when I'm just being nice ringing up your sale which is my job? You must have been quite a dish. |
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Post by abbey1227 on Jan 17, 2023 1:54:49 GMT
Abby has taken to womansplaining now?
getting in touch with my feminine side........it's OK. I gave my consent
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Post by merh on Jan 23, 2023 1:38:50 GMT
When I was 19 working as a cashier so many guys flirted with me. Old farts even. Think you have a goddamned chance when I'm just being nice ringing up your sale which is my job? You must have been quite a dish. That picture I use on V2 is from that time. It was the hair. So many guys love long hair. That hair went down to mid-thigh. And being 5 ft 10. Some guys like tall gals. |
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Post by Prometheus on Jan 23, 2023 2:08:02 GMT
You must have been quite a dish. That picture I use on V2 is from that time. It was the hair. So many guys love long hair. That hair went down to mid-thigh. And being 5 ft 10. Some guys like tall gals. I probably would have flirted with you too. But that doesn't mean that being nice to you is flirting either. When I flirt. You know it. |
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Post by gardengirl1953 on Jan 23, 2023 2:17:49 GMT
You must have been quite a dish. That picture I use on V2 is from that time. It was the hair. So many guys love long hair. That hair went down to mid-thigh. And being 5 ft 10. Some guys like tall gals. Yeah, I had the same situation with the long hair. Mine was (and still is) as long as yours. But I was shorter, 5'6". Mine is still thick, wavy and shot with gray. If I braid it, even women are moved to comment on it. At my first 'real' job at a corporation, there was another girl my age with equally long hair. We joked about going to the Halloween party with our hair braided together; we would have been Siamese twins, joined at the hair. lol! |
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Post by abbey1227 on Jan 23, 2023 9:31:23 GMT
Yeah, I had the same situation with the long hair. Mine was (and still is) as long as yours. But I was shorter, 5'6". Mine is still thick, wavy and shot with gray. If I braid it, even women are moved to comment on it.At my first 'real' job at a corporation, there was another girl my age with equally long hair. We joked about going to the Halloween party with our hair braided together; we would have been Siamese twins, joined at the hair. lol!
I have never envied the amount of work that involves. And there's nothing wrong with gray....... it's a badge of honor, imo.
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Post by gardengirl1953 on Jan 23, 2023 16:08:24 GMT
Yeah, I had the same situation with the long hair. Mine was (and still is) as long as yours. But I was shorter, 5'6". Mine is still thick, wavy and shot with gray. If I braid it, even women are moved to comment on it.At my first 'real' job at a corporation, there was another girl my age with equally long hair. We joked about going to the Halloween party with our hair braided together; we would have been Siamese twins, joined at the hair. lol!
I have never envied the amount of work that involves. And there's nothing wrong with gray....... it's a badge of honor, imo.
Absolutely! I would never try to cover the gray, I earned it. Yes, it is a bit of work to keep it looking good, and a bit of a pain when it is loose and I go outside in the wind (I end up looking like Cousin It in the Addams Family), but it is what I have always liked. When my hair was short, after chemo for a few years, it just wasn't my look. I was so glad when it came back in as thick as it had been before. |
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Post by permutojoe on Jan 23, 2023 19:27:11 GMT
That picture I use on V2 is from that time. It was the hair. So many guys love long hair. That hair went down to mid-thigh. And being 5 ft 10. Some guys like tall gals. I probably would have flirted with you too. But that doesn't mean that being nice to you is flirting either. When I flirt. You know it. Cringe moment if ever there was one. |
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Post by Prometheus on Jan 24, 2023 0:43:15 GMT
I probably would have flirted with you too. But that doesn't mean that being nice to you is flirting either. When I flirt. You know it. Cringe moment if ever there was one. Why?
There's "being nice" and there's "flirting." Isn't the article in the OP about knowing the difference?
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Post by abbey1227 on Jan 24, 2023 3:26:22 GMT
Absolutely! I would never try to cover the gray, I earned it. Yes, it is a bit of work to keep it looking good, and a bit of a pain when it is loose and I go outside in the wind (I end up looking like Cousin It in the Addams Family), but it is what I have always liked. When my hair was short, after chemo for a few years, it just wasn't my look. I was so glad when it came back in as thick as it had been before.
My wife used to have longer blonde and styled hair..........after her chemo, she opted to just stick with the shorter hair and save herself that time every day. 
I prefer the short cuts.
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Post by abbey1227 on Jan 24, 2023 3:27:42 GMT
I probably would have flirted with you too. But that doesn't mean that being nice to you is flirting either. When I flirt. You know it. Cringe moment if ever there was one.
"I think your gun is digging into my hip."
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Post by permutojoe on Jan 24, 2023 5:14:06 GMT
Cringe moment if ever there was one. Why?
There's "being nice" and there's "flirting." Isn't the article in the OP about knowing the difference?
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Post by merh on Jan 24, 2023 6:28:31 GMT
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Post by merh on Jan 24, 2023 6:48:52 GMT
That picture I use on V2 is from that time. It was the hair. So many guys love long hair. That hair went down to mid-thigh. And being 5 ft 10. Some guys like tall gals. Yeah, I had the same situation with the long hair. Mine was (and still is) as long as yours. But I was shorter, 5'6". Mine is still thick, wavy and shot with gray. If I braid it, even women are moved to comment on it. At my first 'real' job at a corporation, there was another girl my age with equally long hair. We joked about going to the Halloween party with our hair braided together; we would have been Siamese twins, joined at the hair. lol! I finally cut mine when I realized I was always braiding it. I only took it down to wash. I would do a circle. I would braid a strand on each side to the back, then merge those 2 braids in the back like a Y (braiding behind one's head. Wheee), then merge that into a braid at the bottom of my head, then wrap that around my head in a circle. My hair was that dark/dirty blonde that sunbleached copper/strawberry blonde. It was funky when I lived in Utah & went out in the winter & it froze like a shield hanging off the back of my head. |
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Post by merh on Jan 24, 2023 7:10:17 GMT
Yeah, I had the same situation with the long hair. Mine was (and still is) as long as yours. But I was shorter, 5'6". Mine is still thick, wavy and shot with gray. If I braid it, even women are moved to comment on it.At my first 'real' job at a corporation, there was another girl my age with equally long hair. We joked about going to the Halloween party with our hair braided together; we would have been Siamese twins, joined at the hair. lol!
I have never envied the amount of work that involves. And there's nothing wrong with gray....... it's a badge of honor, imo.
My husband (who had way more gray than I did) would point out my gray hairs (there's one! And another!) so then my kid started doing it only to a vastly distracting level when we were driving so I started dying my hair in my early 30s. Then I was stuck with it since it would mean cutting it. My hair was long when I met my husband. He kept trying to get me to cut it. Just a trim! So I got pissed & whacked it all off in my 20s. After he died in 2001 I realized I didn't have to keep it short & grew it out. Then after a dozen years or so I realized I had grown it out as a rebellion against him so I cut it. So I got it that long twice not cutting it for 10-13 yrs at a time. Cutting the dye out was a pain. I have a cowlick in the back so cutting my hair too short so it takes a massive amount of product to plaster it down. |
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Post by Prometheus on Jan 24, 2023 9:38:52 GMT
Why?
There's "being nice" and there's "flirting." Isn't the article in the OP about knowing the difference?
Unfortunately, my VPN is down again. Can't see the vid. |
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