Post by abbey1227 on Aug 7, 2022 13:07:58 GMT
whatya think, merh ? Has it gone too far here?
Newsweek
Internet Sides With Man Accused of Being Creepy and 'Ogling' His Girlfriend
Alice Gibbs - Monday
A man has shared how his girlfriend's best friend called him a "creep" and accused him of "ogling" his girlfriend.
Reports of women left feeling uncomfortable by a man's gaze are not rare. From neighbors watching a woman in her yard to viral hacks on how to check if someone is staring at you in the gym—it is something that women are all too familiar with.
In fact, in a survey by Kodak Lens Vision Centers from 2009, 3,000 people were polled in research that discovered that men spend on average 43 minutes a day staring at women.
In a post on Reddit's popular r/TrueOffMyChest forum that now has over 15,000 upvotes, user u/ThrowRa-c4dude said: "I have been with my girlfriend for nine months now. We have just introduced our friends to each other and everything is going smoothly. I think she's the one, to be honest.
"My girlfriend has a pretty face. It's just perfect and I love watching her. She's also very shy and blushes and gets flustered when I look at her for more than a few seconds."
He explained how the previous night, the couple had been at a restaurant with her closest friends when his girlfriend was telling a story.
"I didn't notice but I was probably gazing at her when all of a sudden her best friend shouted, 'would you stop being so creepy and stop ogling her? Can't you see that she's uncomfortable?'," recalled the Redditor: "The loudest silence followed this and then my girlfriend said that she wasn't uncomfortable at all but her best friend continued and said she has noticed me staring at my girlfriend all evening and that it was very creepy."
Taken aback by the comment, the man hit back at his girlfriend's friend and said: "I told her that she was my girlfriend and that I wasn't staring at a stranger, but then all the girls said that I was wrong. It is wrong to stare like this at a woman even if she's your girlfriend, and that I should at least have noticed how my girlfriend was uncomfortable."
Despite the other boyfriends at the dinner siding with the man, the conversation quickly turned into a chat about sexual harassment, and the Redditor explained how embarrassed he felt.
After explaining that his impression was his girlfriend looked a little nervous due to telling a story in front of a big group, the man's girlfriend reiterated to the dinner party that she wasn't offended or uncomfortable.
"Her best friend didn't want to drop it, however, so I just yelled at her to shut up," wrote the Redditor.
With the mood ruined, the group parted ways and the man explained that he later texted his girlfriend to apologize if he had made her feel uncomfortable. She told him not to worry about it, but the poster explained that he still felt uneasy.
"She must have told her friends something or they wouldn't react so strongly, so she probably thinks and has discussed that I'm being a creep," he said: "Or she hasn't told them anything and they made the assessment on their own and that's even more worrying. What am I doing wrong here?"
In more than 2,000 comments, Redditors replied to share their thoughts on the story. One commenter said: "You're supposed to be just the littlest bit obsessed with your partner, she's the prettiest woman in the room, why wouldn't you want to look at her?"
Another Redditor wrote: "You are doing nothing wrong. Your girlfriend was not creeped out so her friend should have dropped it. She sounds jealous."
"Congratulations you have officially met the jealous hag of the friend group," said another reply.
Newsweek has reached out to u/ThrowRa-c4dude for comment.
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